Captain 👮 N Mermaid 🧜
They said, "let's pretend to be in love and live together." —Friends with Benefits, Casual relationships, No Strings Attached, modern relationshits.
I am always amused by the number and the determination of people, these days, to be unattached and unavailable for anything that demands commitment or loyalty. Tinder, happn, Truly Madly, Woo, Bumble, OKCupid, Moco, etc, have become the central hub for dating. And the whole point of online dating is that you can date as many people as you want at the very same time. How simple! It's such nice to not invest time in knowing people and rather have an intimate experience for a day and never call them back again. I remember when there was a time when the guy didn't call back and we thought that probably he didn't like us, but now if he calls then the reaction is probably "Argh, Clingy!". Funny how we close all the gates for ourselves and still dream of love somewhere deep inside our heart.
I have been no different. Everytime a new person, same repeated conversations that I did with the last date, drinking to loosen up, going on a long drive, talking for a few days, ending on his bed suddenly and leaving his house in the early morning to never enter again—this had become a routine. And whom should I blame for it? Nobody. Because love is on a vacation, and lust is everything, everything.
When I ask people about love, they talk about heartaches. Everyone has misinterpreted love as something heart shattering. I remembered I matched with a 18 year old guy, while I was 21. He said, "I am on Tinder because my girlfriend cheated me and there's nothing like love. I just want to get laid". The first thing that came in my mind was that a 17 year old, probably an amateur who doesn't know the first thing about how the world works, is talking about love while he is a super mess. These days, liking toxic people, being with 'bad guys', has become a major trend. It's okay to get laid, but it's not okay to blame love for it. People have been doing this because they want to, and not because of any heartbreaks. There's no point of walking so far for people who would leave you alone half way, but that shouldn't let you to try such.
I am always amused by the number and the determination of people, these days, to be unattached and unavailable for anything that demands commitment or loyalty. Tinder, happn, Truly Madly, Woo, Bumble, OKCupid, Moco, etc, have become the central hub for dating. And the whole point of online dating is that you can date as many people as you want at the very same time. How simple! It's such nice to not invest time in knowing people and rather have an intimate experience for a day and never call them back again. I remember when there was a time when the guy didn't call back and we thought that probably he didn't like us, but now if he calls then the reaction is probably "Argh, Clingy!". Funny how we close all the gates for ourselves and still dream of love somewhere deep inside our heart.
I have been no different. Everytime a new person, same repeated conversations that I did with the last date, drinking to loosen up, going on a long drive, talking for a few days, ending on his bed suddenly and leaving his house in the early morning to never enter again—this had become a routine. And whom should I blame for it? Nobody. Because love is on a vacation, and lust is everything, everything.
When I ask people about love, they talk about heartaches. Everyone has misinterpreted love as something heart shattering. I remembered I matched with a 18 year old guy, while I was 21. He said, "I am on Tinder because my girlfriend cheated me and there's nothing like love. I just want to get laid". The first thing that came in my mind was that a 17 year old, probably an amateur who doesn't know the first thing about how the world works, is talking about love while he is a super mess. These days, liking toxic people, being with 'bad guys', has become a major trend. It's okay to get laid, but it's not okay to blame love for it. People have been doing this because they want to, and not because of any heartbreaks. There's no point of walking so far for people who would leave you alone half way, but that shouldn't let you to try such.
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